I’ve been mostly in neutral for a while – it feels beige and nondescript. Sometimes there are things I have to do, other I know they need to be done and I have no energy. Tuesday was a day I had a hard time finding energy, I am glad I at least wrote a post. Wednesday I went to Breakfast Club because I enjoy the people there, plus I had a signed order to send in. Then I to the funeral home to make arrangements. I have been putting it off, mainly because it is the one physical part of the whole process. It’s the one thing that has made me uncomfortable. Anyway, I arranged for the ashes and I need to take Dad;s over there so they will be together as Mom wanted.
Then I went up to Everett to the Olive Garden to celebrate Joan’s birthday. I did quite well and was able to be calm and not be a downer. It was a lift along with Breakfast Club after being so tired and a bit down on Tuesday. I had a good time and glad I decided to go. On the way home I stopped at Les Schwab to check my tires – my yellow light was on and I though maybe one tire was low. Everything was fine, but even though he evened the pressure on all the tires, the light stayed on.
Eddie had gone to the archives and then did some things afterwards – he was home before I arrived. He decided to take off Thursday and Friday. I put in the sales order on Thursday morning, then we went down to the Nissan dealership to have them check the light. We had stopped at Ikea before the dealership – they have changed their menu and don’t have the herring any more. There used to be separate case with several kinds of herring and we always enjoyed that. Then they didn’t have it any more – the head office decided all the stores had to be the same. Phooey! Couple o times they had little cups of herring but this time it was just the salmon, no herring at all. So you have to buy the jars if you want herring. Bummer!
We waited for the car and it turned out one of my sensors on the left front tire was gone – only $185 to replace it. Now my light doesn’t come on any more. By then I was really tired and just wanted to go home. Friday Eddie went to have his car serviced and I took Dad’s ashes to the funeral home – I will pick them up on Monday – some will be sent to Candy. I checked about the ferry and they need a little notice and it has to be a biodegradable container to drop over the side. Then the library and Bartell’s.
The night before I woke up in the middle of the night and realized there were some things of Mom’s we hadn’t picked up – I wasn’t thinking too clearly the Saturday before – plus Judy wasn’t there. So after the funeral home I went to see Judy – she had tried to call me and my phone was off. She was surprised we had left things – we didn’t see them in the piles. So I think we have everything now , the rest of the things will be given away to those who can use them.
I seem to have a pattern of sleeping fine when I go to bed, but waking up about 2:30 and not being able to go back to sleep. It hasn’t help with resting and regaining my energy – not sure what is going on with it. It used to happen a while ago and then I was doing okay – just had trouble getting to sleep at night. It all feels a bit jumbled and upside down. Probably normal after Mom’s passing, but I’m not sure what is normal for me. I am working on one day at a time. Yesterday Eddie was at the Car Show for the Car Museum and today he is at the Museum of flight. The past four days have felt like Sunday because Eddie has been home or we have done things together; no doubt part of the reason everything feels jumbled.
This coming week should be a bit more regular – I have Dave Gagley on my show tomorrow, he is a great attorney and has helped me so much with Mom’s affairs. The reason things have gone easily with Mom is I have had Dave there to give me advice and legal help, so I want people to know how important it is to prepare so there isn’t a lot of scrambling and running around at the time of dying.
I have been thinking about having a Celebration of Life for Mom in the next month or so – I want there to be a close to the affairs, there will not be a close for Mom and Dad because they are always with us. I’d like to have my sister as part of it, but it may not be possible – they will certainly be here is spirit.
Gift of RA 