Archive for March, 2015

I Hear An Echo Here

March 22, 2015

After a long down, it is feels so good to have  some interest and energy for a change.  This last week has been  unusual, but a lot has been accomplished.  We can see a difference as well.   I have been able to start things moving to clear some things out of the house.  Brigh came by Thursday afternoon to take furniture on consignment – we’ll see how it works.  He as a friend who is interested in some things as well, so that should help empty things out a bit.  As a matter of fact, we now have a big empty space in the living room so we can have our new dining set delivered – it will seem odd to have 2 tables and chairs but that won’t last too long.

We have been finding homes for things – I feel as if I am adopting out kittens.  Eddie is definitely happy to see the empty space.  He dropped off several bags of books to open up some space as well.   There is still a long way to go, but there is definitely progress.  I am finding I have no problem saying goodbye to things, I am not emotionally attached to them as much.  Maybe because I know the things have homes to go to and will be appreciated.  If we had an estate sale, we would lose money on it for all the effort and work it would take.

After 2 or 3 days of being tired physically, I was mentally tired on Friday.  I went in for my One to One to work on my podcasts.  We at least have it showing up on its but not playing – I was there with Rhys for 2 hours and at the moment we are at a standstill.  I need to finish putting the podcasts on the blog so they can at least be heard there – until I can find a platform to store the mp3s, it won’t be on iTunes for a while.  If you check out findingthegifts.wordpress.com you can hear the ones I have  finished.  They are not in order, so they skip around on dates.  I plan to have them in order, 1st show to last.  I also need to do a little work on the site itself, not all that pleased with the theme for it.

Wednesday I went to Breakfast Club and then met Char for an outing at U Village.  We have been talking about it, I am the one who couldn’t get her act together.  Then I didn’t sleep well the night before, so I was draggy and not the best company.  Char and I are such good and long time friends that we are glad to spend time together no matter what is happening.  We both understand each other and our situations – sometimes it me, sometimes it’s her and sometimes both of us.  Usually we are both doing well and it works out really well.  Char is so good for me and I am so glad we had our outing.

I decided it was time to set a date for Mom’s Celebration of Life open house – it is going to be on June 14th from 1 – 4 p.m.  It’s a Sunday and I hope we will be able to paint in time for it.  There will be a cake from Robbie and mostly finger foods to make it easier for people.  I am hoping for a sunny day so we can use the yard and the back porch.  Other than that, I haven’t planned anything else.  I will invite the neighbors, the domino ladies,  my Breakfast Group who knew Mom  – not sure who else is left.

The oddest thing is happening, I have hot flashes again.  Why is a mystery.  I can deal with them during the day, but the ones at night make it hard for me to sleep well.  Last night I woke up several times with them, not conducive to a good night’s rest.  I’m 68 for Heaven’s sake – will this happen every few years?  Give me a break!

I’m not the only feeling a little screwy – the plants and flowers seem to be confused.  The early bloomers are later and the later ones flowered early.  The camellias are fully in bloom and dropping flowers all over.  Jorge and his crew came on Friday and did the yard – next thing you know, the camellias dropped more on the lawn.  The blueberries are beginning to bloom and so it the red pear tree – the other pear and the apple tree are just showing buds.   It is beautiful to see all the flowers blooming – we have had rain and wind, so I hope we don’t lose blossoms that will produce fruit.

As long I work on keeping calm, relaxed and at peace with things feel so mixed up, I will be fine.  This may be the new normal, whatever normal is – just roll with the punches and be flexible.

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Path of Love

March 16, 2015

My sister Ellen sent me a series of photos she took while there was snow on the ground in Ocean Grove.  It is a story of showing love and I found it so touching.  I wanted to share it with you.

This path was made by a man with a snow blower so that his lady could walk without slipping on the snow and ice. He said that, yes, a bit of sand and a few pebbles went through the blower; it seemed not to bother him at all.

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And there he is, with his lady, on part of the snow blower path (it went all up and down the boardwalk, out the pier and onto the sand). And not even Valentine’s Day.

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Art in Ocean Grove

This is a lovely gesture of love, it wasn’t something he bought her, it was an act of love to her.  Loving gifts come from that part deep inside that asks “What can I do today to make you happy?”  My Dad always said the biggest secret of marriage is to make the other person happy.  My husband brings me flowers for no reason, cooks for me, does the laundry and so many other things.  I am the computer person and arrange for repairs and designer along with so many other things.  We have always said “Thank You” to each other for doing the laundry, cooking, creating his newsletter – all the big and small things.

Thank You Ellen for sharing this with me so I can share it with others.

Ups And Downs

March 15, 2015

This grief business is unpredictable, I am not always sure if it is grief, sinus, RA or a myriad of emotions and stress.  Definitely keeps me guessing.  Last week at this time I was drag my tush tired, I could barely stay awake last Saturday as we did our usual Saturday rounds.  I slept a lot in the car and I think I had a nap at home.  I can’t seem to remember what I did earlier in the day or a week ago.  Must be absolutely earthshaking.

Last Sunday I wrote about having Spring and sunny weather – today it is raining.  I wrote my blog post and then went and had a nap because I also developed a miserable headache.  The nap helped some but it was still bugging me on Monday.  I went to see Dr. Cheryl, my chiropractor, and mentioned it, so she worked on my sinuses with her activator.  It helped some but I ended up having an afternoon nap.  Tuesday I had to myself, but I just dragged myself around.  I had things I planned to do but had no interest or energy for them.  Not the kind of state I like.

Wednesday I went to Breakfast Club and did the 15 minute.  I was due April 1, but I had a call from Cheryl on Tuesday – she was losing her voice and asked if I would fill in for her.  I had my presentation planned, just didn’t have logo cookies.  So I found some Biscotti that would do in a pinch.  I will say, I was not all that prepared, so I read a lot of it and stumbled through some bits of it.  However, they seem to enjoy it and I was glad.

Right afterwards I went for a mammogram, then in the afternoon the plumber was coming to check out the kitchen sink and the new toilet.  In our new bathroom, I had notice the water level in the bowl was slowly going down, almost to the bottom.  Also, for some odd reason, the toilet seat began to turn pink.  If it was lavender, I wouldn’t mind, but I hate pink.  He had no explanation for it.  He has seen them turn yellow from the sun, but never pink.  He found the water problem, the little tube wasn’t connected.  As for the seat, we had him replace it – now I have a pristine white toilet seat.

In the kitchen we had great water pressure for the cold water, but for the hot side, barely a trickle and not very hot.  A simple fix, the corrosion from the galvanized water pipes had clogged it up.  Once he cleared it out, we had pressure and hot water.  The only permanent fix if to replace the pipes.  That will cost a fortune.  So we may have to have Greg come back every once in a while to unclog the screen for us.  What bliss to have hot water and also a full toilet bowl.  Doesn’t seem a big things unless you have to live with it.

Wednesday was a better day, I felt I had some energy and had accomplished things.  Thursday we worked on the computers in the morning and then Eddie was my chauffeur and porter in the afternoon.  I had an Apple One to One appointment to work on my podcasts.  I have them on Google Drive and then I am putting them on a WordPress blog.  Rhys and I worked on submitting it to iTunes, don’t think it made it through for some reason.  However, I need to put all 16 shows on the blog and then we can work on iTunes submissions to get it right.

I had a good day Friday – at the moment it is a complete blank.  I know I was busy and accomplished things, just don’t remember what it was.  I’m sure it will come back to me after I am finished with the post.  Saturday I had a book fellow come over to check out our books.  He bought some and now I need to send the rest to either Goodwill or the library.  I have been putting away the ones I want to keep.

Kathy came a week or so ago and helped me clean out and organize Mom’s room.  It really does help to have it organized.  Now I need to check with the Post Office about box sizes to Nova Scotia so we can sort and organized the hooking stuff.  I have no idea where the cutters are or her hooking frame, I’m hoping I will come across them eventually.  Well, boxes first.

Eddie found homes for the clocks.  One of the women at Future of Flight wants one and Lisa from PNAA wants to the other – we are waiting to find out when they plan to come and pick them up.  Good to know they are going to good homes.

We also finished Eddie’s The Kaplanian Report and he sent it out to his list.  This morning I put it on his blog and published it.  He has had a lot of people asked to be put on his list to receive it and they think it is really great.  One of these days we have to figure out how to make a little money from it.

It is about time I started working on cleaning up the office, so much stuff and I need to let go of it.  It will help when it is organized, then I know what to keep and what not to keep.  No pictures this time, just my ramblings.

Spring Ahead – Phooey!

March 8, 2015

Just when I am comfortable being able to wake up when I plan, we do this ridiculous Daylight Time. I am still trying to figure out why we do it and why does it get earlier and earlier every year. It also means it is extended at the other end as well. It’s been much lighter for Eddie when he leaves at 5 a.m. – now it is dark as a pocket.

I am usually not cranky about things, it’s just that I feel uncomfortable and out of kilter when we are on Daylight time – going back to Standard time, it feels like being in a warm, cosy bed. So far this year, it has been unusual. We have had Spring since the middle of February and so many things are blooming now. Vic’s magnolia tree is almost past blooming, the camellias are going by quickly and the forsythia had a slow start – they are usually the first ones to bloom.

We have had a lot of sunny, fairly warm days – sweater weather in the beginning of March. The scales in the porch garden are getting taller and I expect them to send up stalks for blossoms shortly. Thursday I told the apple and pear trees “Don’t you dare bloom now!” because we might not have any pears or apples. I need to put fertilizer spikes in so they will have some to help them produce fruit. Maybe another shot this year will help the fig tree. I think it is still angry we pruned it 2 or 3 years ago.  I am not complaining, it is a glorious time to see everything blooming.

I seem to spend a lot of time sleeping at night and during the day. Yesterday we went to pick up our taxes from A.D. and all I wanted to do was sleep in the car. A. D. is a great guy and had things ready for us – no chivvying and nagging any more. He had some suggestions for this tax year and we’ll see how things go when we do the taxes next year.

Today I am having trouble getting my self organized or doing anything – maybe I have just been telling myself it is hard to adjust rather than just accepting the change and being open and willing to see it as a usual Sunday. Old habits die hard.

I haven’t written much lately, I don’t want to whinge and be a downer. I finished the 6 week grief support group and would like to see what else is available. I feel a bit cut off before I am ready. I think everyone else felt a bit of that as well. Also, I had 2 different people come in to see about an estate sale – we would lose money if we had one because the market for antiques is no longer there. One of the women gave me the names of people who might be in certain pieces and one fellow who might be interested in the books.

We bought a dining room table that they will hold in the warehouse for us for about a month. Not sure how soon we can move things out to accommodate it. An oddball situation for sure. Kathy helped me organize Mom’s room – she has an organized mind without the emotion. I need to buy some boxes to sort through Mom’s hooking stuff for the lady in Nova Scotia – that was what I asked her to help me do last Wednesday.

Not much else happening, though Ellen and Candy have been having snow. I was interesting to see Ellen’s photo of the beach covered with snow and the water a cobalt blue.

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