I have no idea what to call this post, it feels as if it has been a very long time since I was able to write about what’s been happening. Maybe something will come to me as I write.
On the 11th of October I moved my Mom to an adult family home – I could not have accomplished it without Kathy’s help. Mom left for the Center , then Kathy came over around 10. She ran 3 loads of wash so everything would be clean for Mom as she started out in her new home. Kathy knew what to pack and did a lot of it. Most everything was labeled except a few things and ready to go. I am not sure what I was doing, only that I was busy and time was passing by very quickly. I think I spent time making inventory lists – except my mouse was losing battery power so it took so much longer as it disconnected and then reconnected.
By the time we were ready to leave, it was after 1. We put things in both cars – Kathy was able to put Mom’s white chair in her car. That way Kathy would have her car when she wanted to leave. As we unpacked the cars, I realized it was getting near time to pick up Mom; Kathy, Didi and the caretaker Judy helped unpack while I went over to pick up Mom. I was concerned about how Mom would take to the move – she had been fine with it when I told her Sunday night when she initiated the conversation. So I decided I would just take it as it came and not anticipate negativity.
When I went to the Center, I couldn’t find Mom, she had gone walkabout. Apparently she gets a bit restless about that time of day and they take her for a walk around the facility. So we found each other and we went to the car. We were fine until it seemed a long time to her – she wanted to know where we were going. I told her we were going to the new home we talked about. She did seem to think it was a long way away – from West Seattle to DesMoines is a bit far. I told her Kathy was waiting for her, she had helped fix up her room. On the whole it worked out very well.
I will admit to being exhausted by then, so tired I couldn’t see straight. Kathy had to leave to get some sleep because she was working all night. I stayed a bit longer, then said goodbye to Mom – they took her to see John’s cat in his room, so I don’t think she noticed I left. I was feeling a bit faint when I got home – I hadn’t had time for lunch – not a smart move. Eddie took me out to dinner and I felt better after something to eat. I thought I would go right to sleep because I was so tired – not that night. I think I was too tired to sleep plus I was uncomfortable as well. So I didn’t have much sleep that night, getting up at 4 to go with Eddie wasn’t a big deal. I was spending the day at Olympus Spa by myself and just sit and soak, have tea and lunch there. After awhile in the 104 degree pool I was feeling really good, I had trouble keeping from falling asleep. After awhile I went into the lounge room and used the foot massager for awhile on both feet – boy, that was great too.
Then I went into the tea room and enjoyed some jasmine tea and lemon rooibos – sat and read – unfortunately I forgot my book in the car. That was okay, they had magazines. The next time I do it, I am going to take a notebook and write. I went back to the pool for a bit longer until it was time for lunch. One thing I noticed that concerned me, my hip scar and that area was sore – maybe too long in hot water.
I had a lovely lunch the went back for a little more tea. After a bit I decided to do the foot massager again but they were all being used. I was having trouble staying awake, so I got dressed and went out for some fresh air. That helped and then went back up to the Future of Flight. I was glad to see several people up there, it has been many months since I was last there. Did called to let me know how Mom was doing, then talked to Mom – she asked if she could stay there and I told definitely she could. Then Eddie was ready to go home and I slept off and on all the way home. We had dinner and went to bed early. Now that night I slept very well.
I did not expect this drag my ass tired, I figured tired but not this much. Several people have said I have had a very emotional upheaval and shift – I am not sure what all that is. To be honest, I don’t know what I feel nor does it seem to have sunk in yet. I am just going from one day to the next until I feel more rested. I’ve had some days or periods when I was feeling a bit rested, then back to tired again. The last few nights I have been sleeping better – last night, not so much. Fortunately there aren’t any things that need my immediate attention and study. Rest is foremost on my agenda right now.
Tags: adult family home, drag my ass tired, God, Mother, moving, Sleep
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