Mom on her 90th birthday.
Just when I thought all was pretty much taken care of with Mom’s stuff; a letter from DSHS arrives in last Saturday’s mail. they sent a form about asset recovery for Mom’s medicaid. It is a simple form, but I always feel it is a more of a minefield. I made a copy of it to play around with before doing the official one. I took it over to Dave Gagley to check for me – I don’t want to answer questions they didn’t ask. We spent some time figuring out what I need, what else I need to do, etc. because they are going to want the money in her checking account. I don’t begrudge them the money because they did so much for Mom, I want to be sure my ducks are in a row and everything is properly done.
He is going to file Mom’s will for safekeeping, not for probate. So I had a list of things to bring him to put this together. He also suggested going to see our new accountant about final tax return and what is needed. I made an appointment with AD and his opinion was that it wasn’t necessary to file because she had minimum income. I went back to see Dave on Friday to give him the stuff, plus to call AD to explain what he needed, I wasn’t too clear because I don’t quite understand it or the ramifications.
So he and AD talked and settled it between themselves – a bonus for Dave is that AD is looking for an elderly attorney as a referral for his clients. It’s possible Dave will refer clients who need a tax accountant to AD. Works all around. It was such a relief to have their help with this, it has been a source of tension and stress for me all week. Dave is going to write a letter to DSHS to let them know there are still some bills – his and AD’s still outstanding, so the account isn’t ready to close yet.
I am hoping this is the last piece to the whole puzzle and it can be put to rest. It has seemed as if there is a spanner in the works cropping up and making me feel stressed; how glad I am to have had Dave to consult and help me with each one as it appears. I get antsy and uptight when it comes to government, they can make life very difficult without even trying.
Tomorrow is my radio show, thank goodness the website is up and running and I think I have email. Last Monday Vickie Bergquist was my show, it was fun because she came to the studio with me for a face to face show. She was nervous, later said she had fun and I put her at ease. Not sure what I did, but I am sure Benny helped to calm her nerves too. This week it is just me.
I have had a lot of good comments from friends on how well it sounds and how polished. Maybe it is time to take off the training wheels. I am more comfortable with it, though not quite sure it is real. It’s not a feeling I can put into words, maybe more of an unreal quality because I never thought I would be doing this. I had some advice from a marketing friend, since I don’t have a sponsor yet, he suggested using my promotional marketing business as my sponsor. So we’ll see how that works tomorrow.
It is somewhat odd to find I have trouble remembering what I did during the past week. I know I was busy and not able to take naps in the afternoons. I need to check my calendar. I have been sleeping pretty well at night, sometimes it’s hard to wake up early even though I had gone to bed around 9. I feel I have a bit more energy at times, some days more than others.
Even tough we have had sun most of the week, it hasn’t been all that comfortable to be outside in the wind – it’s really cold to me. I know we aren’t having Arctic Chill temperatures, but these are cold enough for me. Yes, I am a bit of a wimp when it comes to extreme temperatures either way. We have been having low 40’s during the day and some below freezing nights. I know other places are colder, snowier and more miserable, this is where I live and it’s more than enough for me. I have served my time in the eastern part of the U.S., that’s why I appreciate living here.
Cold is not always kind to joints, at times I feel as if I am slowly being mummified, my legs are as flexible and the other limbs aren’t quite so able to move that well. The bandages feel as if they are tightening around my middle so I have more trouble bending – or is this all my imagination? My left side rib is still sore from the tumble, I am curious to know why it seems to travel to different sections and ribs on that side. Not sure what’s happening but have decided to see it as interesting rather than get my knickers in a twist about it. The combination of RA and my body have kept me wondering what is happening for over 40 years.
How about that; I have written 900 words not saying much about anything.
Tags: accountant, Cold, Dave, DSHS, Mom, naps, puzzle, RA, radio show, rib, weather, wind
Gift of RA 
November 16, 2014 at 10:08 pm |
I’m sorry to hear about this new spanner in the works, but between Dave and AD, it sounds like you are on the right track with it. Hope it will all be finished Soon–and then all this peripheral stuff can be finished!
Keep in mind, forgetting is a side-effect of grief, and eventually you will find your memory improves again. At first, though, it’s hard to concentrate on anything, and hard to remember things. Give it time, Liz!
I have really been feeling the cold this time, too. Silk longjohns under slacks and even under jammies seem to help keep my legs warm, and socks on my feet, even in bed at night. This morning when I went to church, I wore my down coat, and it felt Good! I see it’s warming up just a tad, though–it’s still a few degrees above where it was last night at this time.
If your left rib keeps giving you problems, maybe another x-ray might be in order, just to make sure something wasn’t missed.
Take care. Email me one of these days!! I’d love to hear from you again, even if you feel like you don’t have much to say. love, Char
November 17, 2014 at 7:07 am |
I suspect part of not remembering is also not wanting to deal with it at the moment. I think the grief counselor is a good idea. I plan to take each day as it comes and not look or plan too far in the future.
November 16, 2014 at 10:10 pm |
I just realized, that second sentence doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. Sorry about that! It should have said something like: Hope the loose ends get tied up Soon–and then it will be done and you can move on to other things!
November 17, 2014 at 7:03 am |
I need to check that out – my spellcheck didn’t go on this time.